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Letting Love In: How Compassion and Forgiveness Allow The Doors To Open Wide!
Lovin’ Life Now! Newsletter
Volume I, Issue 6:
Letting Love In: How Compassion and Forgiveness Allow The Doors To Open Wide!
This Issue is prepared especially for you!
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In this Issue:
1. Welcome!
2. Letting Love In: How Compassion and Forgiveness Allow The Doors To Open Wide! (Featured Article)
3. Announcements/Offers
4. About Lovin’ Life Now Weekly Newsletter
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1) Welcome to this issue of our Lovin’ Life Now! Weekly newsletter. A special hello to you if you are receiving this for the first time. Feel free to pass this on to anyone you think might be interested in it.
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2) Letting Love In: How Compassion and Forgiveness Allow The Doors To Open Wide! (Featured Article)
By Charlene M Brown
There are so many people complaining about finding the perfect mate that I’d bet if they all held hands and stretched themselves out, they would fit around the world several times!
The overwhelming majority of these folks are probably Western in their beliefs where complaining makes up a large part of our society. But most of them are probably also holding onto to past hurts and negative energy that they are sabotaging themselves right out of Love’s way!
Okay, okay, let’s slow this down a little bit and take it piece by piece!
At some point or another, we all hold onto some sort of bitterness and resentment for something someone did to us.
Perhaps it was the promotion we got glazed over for. Or maybe it was the insult to us or a loved one by some insensitive soul. Or the angry, hurtful words spewed in a terrible fight.
Whatever the situation, we have all been slighted some time in our lives.
And I bet you can recall very vividly the emotions you felt at the time, as if you are reliving it every time you think about it.
Well guess what!? You ARE! And every time you think about it, you are sending that signal out to the Universe saying, “Yes, I want more of this hurt and pain and craziness.”
Every time you think about something, you make it stronger and pull it toward you more forcefully.
So if all you are pulling in revolves around craziness, bitterness, and resentment, what do you think you are going to get time and time again?
We are all our own self-fulfilling prophecies!
With negative feelings and emotions taking up so much space, where do you suppose there is room for Love!?
There is not. Or perhaps very little.
Ahhhh. No wonder it’s so hard to love then.
Who is the bitterest person you know? What are they so bitter about? I’ll bet somebody “wronged” them along the way, whether an ambiguous “They”, or a very specific person or incident. And they are holding onto that sense of wrongdoing in their hearts!
I know about bitterness!
And have the biting sarcasm to go with it.
It’s a funny thing about emotions, when we hold the negative ones in our hearts, there are only but so many that will fit, usually only enough room for 1 or 2. But when we hold positive and useful emotions in our heart, there seems to be a limitless amount of space for more positive emotions.
Like attracts Like!
When fear and bitterness and anger and negativity are in our hearts, there is no room for anything else, including Love.
In order to let Love in we have to let go of all those other things that are no longer serving us. I know Sheila may have cut in front of you in the second grade, or your big sister may have been the shining picture of perfection that everyone always noticed, or you really deserved that promotion, but where is this bitterness about it getting you!?
We have to stop replaying all the little and big hurts we have ever experienced in our lives and move on.
We have to find forgiveness, both for the other person, and more importantly for OURSELVES!
We have to reclaim the positive side of life.
Until and unless we release all these negative things in our hearts (not to mention the literal, physical mayhem it can cause to our bodies!), we will never be able to let the positive back in.
“When the door of happiness closes, another opens. But often times we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us.” ~Unknown
Instead of focusing on the one that closed, go look for the next one that is open!
In order to “Let LOVE In”, you have to let anger and resentment and bitterness out. Let them go! Find the space in your heart for forgiveness! Only then, will the seed of Love begin to be cultivated into the great flowering Tree of Life!
A Big HUG to You!
~Charli B.
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By Charlene M Brown
What are all the things you can’t do!?
How much time do you spend thinking about them?
By Charlene M Brown
Have you ever listened to one of your girlfriends knowing it wasn’t the best thing for YOU to do!? Or maybe you have a girlfriend who is always advising you to do things that are for HER benefit and not your own!?
By Charlene M Brown
If you’ve been following my articles for awhile or if you just take a look through this category (College Taught You What!?), you will find that I often talk about (well, write about) what college didn’t teach me, noting the irony in the title!
Well, this time, I am going to talk about what I did learn while I was in college.
My senior year in high school, was a little rough for me. My best friend had just transferred to a new school, and in her void, I was shut out of a lot of things that I had only been included in because of her. I was stressed about getting into and going to college, tired of taking tests and filling out applications for this or that. I was just plain tired!
In August, I went off to college with this same weariness.
My first year in English class, our final paper was a topic of our own choosing. The professor would call on us to get up in front of the class to read what he deemed “excellent” papers. That year, I gave a tearful, heartfelt “speech” (it was really an essay) about how the great people I had met in college made room at the table for a militant mixie like me. Those are some good people!
Sometime during that same first year, I got booed off the stage (a very humorous story!), which led me to leave the confines of the university and push out an about in the city. There I met many of the wonderful people that the transient city had to offer. I was well-nurtured in the artists’ lair. More good folks!
I had roommates who stayed up talking with me in the kitchen ‘til 3am. I had classmates who “thought I always had the right answer” and took a chance on partnering with me. People who really “got me” and could explain things to me in a way that I understood! People who taught me great lessons about myself that I didn’t even know I was looking to learn. Some of these have been cultivated into my greatest friendships today!
I met people while I was in college who I could have incredible intellectual conversations and share great laughter with. For the first time in my life, I had girlfriends who could laugh and giggle with me. I remember fondly our “Girls Nights In” which usually consisted of Disney movies and some form of music playing/singing!
While I was in college, I found a great love and acceptance in people that I didn’t know existed before. And an unexpected closeness with people I knew before I got there that made it all worthwhile!
In college, I learned the true meaning of “embrace”, both in its physical form and its mental and spiritual forms. I learned to live life as an adventure, new and beautiful every day! I learned that I could, indeed, change the world!
How AWESOME Is that!?
So Go!, Enjoy all that college has to offer you or has already offered you! Be in Awe of all the amazing people and places and things all around you!
On that note, I wrote this poem while I was in college—it’s one of my favorites, and I want to share it with you:
(For K)
Look at that rainbow
The man carelessly standing at the light said.
I looked.
I wanted to BE that rainbow
I wanted to be that rare phenomena
That filled the world with light, where we thought there was none! © 2004 CMB
Do You Love Your Life Now! I DO (Because I discovered great people while I was in college!)
Lovin’ Life Now! Newsletter
Charlene M Brown
What was the best date you ever went on! Who was it with? What did you do that made it so special?
Hold onto this delicious thought (I bet you are licking your lips for one reason or another! 
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Now, when was the last time you took yourself on a date!?
Have you ever?
Well, hunny, it’s about time you did!
This might take some planning and saving—I understand that—but it is well worth it, I promise you! Do what it takes to make this happen anyway!
Get all dressed up! Find your favorite flirty-fun dress, add your favorite jewelry, and accessories, maybe a dab of makeup to highlight your beautiful face, now add your favorite pair of heels and you are ready to go. Don’t forget to take a wrap or a jacket if you will be chilly upon your return (or if it’s Winter or Fall!)
Now take yourself to someplace that you have always wanted to try. This might be the Opera or Ballet, or it might be a nice restaurant in town. Whatever it is, Paint the town red and have a fabulous time with yourself. Don’t worry about your first impressions of your date, just be yourself.
For me this looks like, having dinner at a nice seafood restaurant, enjoying a glass of wine or two, eating dessert (I believe in Dessert! ) then catching a show that has lots of music or dancing or both in it.
And I have done this, and found that I enjoy my own company just as much as I enjoy other peoples’ company!
If dinner is part of your date, make sure you select things that sound like the most delicious items on the menu! And don’t forget dessert! Women are always watching what they eat! Just this once, on your magnificent date, don’t worry about the calories or getting up extra early tomorrow to burn them off, just enjoy every delicious bite of your food and every sensuous sip of your drink. Delight in your decadent dessert!
If you are going to the theatre, make sure it is something you have wanted to see for awhile—make sure it’s worth it.
Before you leave the house, make sure you look in the mirror and tell your date how marvelous she looks. Just for tonight, suspend all judgment!
Just for tonight, have the time of your life!
Tell us about it by leaving a comment!
Enjoy!
Do You Love Your Life Now!? I DO!! (Because I regularly take myself out on great dates! )
By Charlene M Brown
Have you ever gone from relationship to relationship, yet still feel alone and lonely? Have you drawn the somewhat clichéd conclusion that, “it’s not them, it’s you?”
Do you find that even with companionship, you still feel unfulfilled? Perhaps you are afraid to be alone?
This happens to the best of us at one time or another.
Relationships (ALL relationships) teach us how to be our best selves. Sometimes, unfortunately, they teach us by showing us how we DON’T want to be treated!
If you’ve fallen into this lapse, let me offer you a suggestion: get out of the relationship you are in and get into a relationship with YOURSELF!
Date yourself!
That’s right, start courting yourself, taking yourself out on dates and really loving yourself.
It sounds silly, but by dating yourself, you find out how you really want to be treated and what you really expect from a partner.
It also sheds light on where your expectations are unrealistic for a partner: if you’re not willing to do these things for yourself, than how can you expect someone else to do them for you!?
Seriously, this works! I’ve done it!
You also really GROW as an individual. You learn to make yourself whole and complete all by yourself.
When you date yourself, you find out what you really want. And go full out! Get dressed for your first date and rock your sexiest heels!
Take mental notes as you do this!
Do you always go for ice cream after a movie, but never have with a partner? This teaches you to speak up (“the squeaky wheel gets the oil”, or in this case the ice cream).
Do you really dislike Vietnamese food, but have gone to appease a partner. Maybe you love Thai food, but never voiced this to your partner.
Dating yourself gives you a real idea of your preferences. It also shows you what you are looking for in a mate.
Ladies, does your guy always pick up the tab? Dating yourself puts a realistic monetary picture of what he is spending (times 2!) every time you go out.
This also gives you a chance to get to know you better.
A partnership should be between two whole people, not one completing the other. You should be able to stand on your own two feet before you try to stand on four. Once you’ve dated yourself, it will boost your confidence—telling other people: yes, I can do this by myself!” And all without saying a word!
I suggest dating yourself at least once in your life and for at least six months! This is a reasonable amount of time to get to know your Self and deal with whatever may come up. Learn how to wine and dine yourself, so you know how to communicate this to a partner when the time comes again.
Do You Love Your Life Now!? I Do! (Because I can wine and dine myself with the best of them!)