Responsibility!
Long before I got to this 21 Day Consciousness Cleanse, I learned a hard lesson about responsibility. After a series of really rocky relationships in my young adulthood, I realized with startling clarity that the common denominator was ME! That I was the one continuing to get involved with emotionally unavailable men! And that I had to take responsibility for my role in each of these relationships (nothing more and nothing less!).
So with that strong foundation, I came to today’s lesson with a bit of wisdom.
But this lesson asks me to take responsibility just because I am adult. This is a lesson I have been learning on my own, and coming across it again today is just confirmation, I suppose.
In fact, I have decided that I AM an adult: I found out that my highschool has a graduation award in memory of one of my classmates, so I put a check in the mail. When people I know are running or walking for a cause, I give because that’s what I think responsible adults do. I am okay with paying bills because it is one of my Rites of Passage into adulthood. (In fact, I have a wonderful game going on with my bills right now, and I actually enjoy paying them. See Esther and Jerry Hicks’ book, Ask and It Is Given for more on this game)
So I feel like I came into today with a leg up on this one!
However, some of the things I need to take responsibility for today (or release it for that matter), are a phone call to an acquaintance of my moms’ (I really want my mommy to do it for me), releasing and letting go of relationships that aren’t serving me, even though some of them have deep roots. But I can no longer take responsibility for their outcomes.
Here’s the thing about taking responsibility–you can only take what belongs to you. In a relationship, any kind of relationship, whether sibling rivalry, romantic partnership or fantastic friendship, you can only do something about yourself. You can’t take responsibility for the other person’s actions or thoughts, only your own.
And for me, most of the places where I am not taking responsibility translates into my not taking action. I don’t do too much of the blame game, I understand that I have chosen not to take the action, but by me being a responsible adult, it is up to me to change that decision. And only me!
One of the things that has repeatedly come up is not speaking up for myself–I am not taking responsibility for myself as a SELF with a unique identity. So I am claiming responsibility for each of these actions and choosing something new!
With all this said, this was the perfect place for the reminder of Responsibility today. I am Grateful for the reinforcement of the lesson.
Debbie Ford’s 21 Day Consciousness Cleanse
Related posts:
- Glory Days: Living in the Present and Taking Responsibility!
- 21 Day Consciousness Cleanse, Day 10
- 21 Day Consciousness Cleanse, Day 18
- 21 Day Consciousness Cleanse, Day 11
- 21 Day Consciousness Cleanse, Day 2
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