By Charlene M. Brown
You’re about that age when everyone around you, friends from high school, girlfriends from college, new found co-workers, are all calling you to get your current address so they can send you . . drumroll please . . . . the wedding invitation. It seems like someone you know is getting engaged every other week.
So where does that leave you: are you left going to all of these weddings by yourself or finding your best guy friend and convincing him to get all gussied up so he can accompany you? Or are you trying to convince your beau that he should wear a different suit to this wedding than he did to the last one? Or maybe your mother keeps asking (read nagging) you when she is going to get some grandchildren from you–beans in the oven, bambinos and such. But maybe, just maybe, through all this marriage and wedding talk, you are fine just where you are: Purposefully Single.
Don’t get me wrong, at some point or another, we have all thought about being partnered, thinking that perhaps it would be nice. But that is the sort of thing that happens naturally, not forcibly. Maybe, just maybe, you are content being single.
Society puts so much pressure, on women especially, to be partnered. Take a look at the (entertainment) magazines you find lying around the house or in the grocery store aisles. If not directly on the front cover, most certainly within its innards, you find stories and articles about relationships (and sex and perhaps scandal, depending on what you read). But what if all that relationship business is not for you, or at least not right now? What if you don’t really care which celebrity is sleeping outside their marriage or partnership? We are so bombarded with these images and subliminal messages, sometimes we can forget what our own good sense has to say!
Here are 7 Advantages to Being Purposefully Single
1—Your food bill is cheaper. Whether you are buying groceries or treating yourself to a wonderful restaurant meal, your food bill will be half or less of what it would be if you were buying for two.
2—You can be yourself. It sounds silly, sure. But as women, we are often the ones who try to change ourselves to please someone else. Get to know who you really are and learn to speak up about what is acceptable for you (and what is not).
3—“The best thing about being a woman is the prerogative to have a little fun (fun, fun, fun) . . .” Shania Twain says it best. You can be flirty fun or a superhero and have a good time. When it boils down to it, we, as women, know how to have a good time, however we define it.
4—Choices are yours to make. There is no second opinion, what you say goes. If you want lime green drapes, you can have them—that decision is yours alone to make.
5—In general, women are more in touch with their feelings and emotions than men. This goes back to #2 and getting to know who you really are and finding out what really motivates you.
6—While we tend to be more in touch with our emotions, sometimes they can also muddy the waters when another person is involved. Being single allows us to (often) more clearly figure out what we want, set goals and create action plans as to how we will accomplish these goals. You can adjust your goals as life circumstances change, but it is important to know where you are going, without someone else always chiming in.
7—You are Responsible for you own actions! Let me say that again: YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN ACTIONS! Take responsibility for the things you have created. If you desire to change them, you can do so. Believe in Yourself and what you are capable of doing. Take Action! You Can Do It!
These are just a few tips and guidelines. Mold them to fit your Self. And if one of your goals is to be partnered, doing these things above makes you all the better to catch, my dear. If a potential partner can’t see that or isn’t clear on that, that person is not worth your time. Be Fire Women!
Do You Love Your Life Now!? I Do!!
Related posts:
- Single vs. Relationshiped: The Argument for Balance
- Single Vs Relationshiped: The Argument for Balance, Part II
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