By Charlene M. Brown
He did you wrong! He broke your heart and destroyed your Spirit! You got so depressed when he left your life! Does any of this sound familiar? Is it your present state of mind rather than your past? Hmmmm . . . .
Or maybe you have met a new someone who you like, but because of that past heartbreak and anger, you are afraid to get close. You are afraid of being hurt again. Let me ask you something, how good does a good relationship feel? With this new person, how great do you feel when you get up in the morning, while ya’ll are “checking in”, when you are with this awesome person? Doesn’t this new person deserve that same wonderfulness? Don’t you?
The subconscious belief (or maybe the conscious belief) that you do not deserve or are unworthy of a great relationship, is keeping you from having one. I have a remedy in three simple words: Let It Go!
Is it worth it to hold onto that hurt and pain and anger? What is this holding you back from? How many other Great Opportunities have you missed holding onto this anger, hurt and pain from a past lover? Is this where you would like your future to go?
As deceptively simple as letting it go sounds, it is the simpler of the two steps. The next step is . . . Forgiveness!
Neither of these will happen overnight, but will take time to first grasp, then understand, and finally, to do. Accept that this situation is part of your past and doesn’t have to be your present or future unless you choose it to be so. Think about the things—lessons—you learned in the process. Often, difficult times are when we do the most learning and growing within ourselves.
Many things have happened to me that I wouldn’t wish on anyone else, but you know what? In hindsight, (and only in hindsight, lol), I wouldn’t change any of them because they all got me to where I am now. And I Love Where I Am Now!
It is tremendously hard to share yourself with someone if you are not done sharing yourself with the person before them (or the person before that). How can you be intimate when you harbor hurt, pain and resentment? You can make up excuses and lie to yourself, but the real answer is, You can’t. If you truly seek the intimacy you claim to seek, you have to do two things: you have to let the situation and the person go; and you have to forgive. Until these two things are done, you will continue to hold onto all that negative energy. Doesn’t positive energy feel better to you? It does to me!
Do You Love Your Life Now!? I Do!! (Because I have learned, am still learning, to let things go and forgive!)
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