By Charlene M. Brown
When you go to your mother’s house, is there always something good to eat? Cake? Cookies? Meatloaf or Lasagna? Besides full, do you slip back to being a little girl again, when your mommy packed your lunch for you? Though I hate to admit it, being in my mother’s house, and especially in her kitchen, make me feel like I am five-years-old all over again.
I revert again back to Stephanie Plum, the star of a HILARIOUS set of numbered novels by Janet Evanovich. (Seriously, these are possibly the funniest series of books ever!) Stephanie goes to her mother’s house at least once a week for dinner and always leaves carrying a bag of leftovers that will feed her for a day or two more. I admit, I will also travel for good food! 
My mother and I currently live in the same city (again) and periodically, she calls to let me know that there is some delicious yumminess in her house and that I should stop by to get some of it (before it’s all gone)! In fact, my mother will call to tell me about some new food that she heard about or tried recently.
And while we don’t always agree on other things, good food is definitely something we share—it is our common ground.
During these “good food” conversations, we are not talking (read, my mother is not grilling me) about beans in the oven or some man to produce the said beans, and they are actually rather enjoyable. Further, neither of us is trying to control the other’s life, so these are actually some of our best conversations. As an added bonus, these conversations are a positive time where me and my mother can simply enjoy each other’s companionship.
Because we are both avid fans of good food, talking to my mother about it provides a happy medium for both of us. This is what I encourage all of you to do: find a happy medium with your mother too, so at least some of the time you are facing each other on common ground.
In much of my writings, my intent is to encourage us women to move forward on our own two feet and not those of our parents, siblings, partners or friends. But I also encourage you to find some common ground with these people, especially your mothers. I am not talking about a guilt-ridden barrage or onslaught from either one of you; I am talking about relating to your mom woman to woman, not mother to daughter, though you will always be her daughter. It doesn’t have to be about everything, just find one or two things that ya’ll can relate to woman to woman.
For me and my mom, good food is something we can talk about and enjoy as one woman to another. We are equals and cohorts on this never ending quest!
I encourage you to find this common ground with your mother too.
Do You Love Your Life Now!? I Do!! (In part, because I can find common ground and eat good food!)
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