By Charlene M Brown
Have you ever listened to one of your girlfriends knowing it wasn’t the best thing for YOU to do!? Or maybe you have a girlfriend who is always advising you to do things that are for HER benefit and not your own!?
It’s time to examine the relationships you surround yourself with!
This is not a “DUMP all your girlfriends and go it alone” article. This is a let’s see where you are in comparison to where you would like to be sort of deal.
The root of most negative things in your life boil down to anger or fear, sometimes both! I know a lot about both of those, but today, we’re going to talk about fear.
A good friend of mine says F.E.A.R. is nothing more than False Expectations Appearing Real (and I believe she got it from Iyanla Vanzant). This blew my mind when she told me this. I had never heard it before, but more than that, it is absolutely true!
Look at the things you are holding yourself back from. I’d bet the only thing holding you back in so many of the things you are not doing in your life is the false expectation you have set for yourself or come to believe through someone else’s prodding!
I ask you this: Whose expectations are you trying to reach?
If they’re not your own, I suggest you take a long look at them and see whose they are and why you are trying to reach them.
Friends are wonderful attachments to your life. Absolutely!
But sometimes you have to break away from the pack for a little while and see which way is YOUR way vs. the way of everyone else!
This is no simple task I assure you, but it also does not need to be completed in one fell swoop!
This is a process, and it will happen the same way everything else happens, one beautiful step at a time.
My family is an all or nothing sort of bunch. We go hard or we go home!
I am in a Learning Process where I am trying to get away from the All or Nothing attitude of my family and learning to take smaller steps (I try to take lots of smaller steps) to get to my goals.
I know about Fear.
But I also know about False Expectations Appearing Real! (F.E.A.R.) and I have found that I have worked through lots of it and now: I am S.A.F.E., Secure And Fabulously Effective. Or at least I am working on that day by day.
Again, I am not suggesting that you dump all your girlfriends or your family members. I am suggesting, however, that you take a long, thoughtful look at your life and go your own way at least once, just to see what it feels like.
As women, our female support network is often our beacon of trust and love and support and strength. This is important. It is also important to have your own identity within this intertwining network!
GO. BE. YOU!
Do You Love Your Life Now!? I DO (because among My Groups I know Myself!)! (and because I am S.A.F.E.!)
Related posts:
- Facing Yourself!
- 21 Day Consciousness Cleanse, Day 6
- Marshmallows and Pickles: Lessons Learned from Pregnant Ladies!
- Drawing The Spotlight: Every Little Step You Take!
- Being Still and Learning to Listen
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