By Charlene M Brown
When you are little, Mommy is like God! She knows everything!
As you get older, you start to think, maybe Mom doesn’t know everything, but she sure knows a lot!
When the teen years hit, your public announcement may be that your mother doesn’t know anything, (but privately you know that she still knows a lot, just nothing about you right now!)
Then you grow to adulthood and you start to seek your mother’s advice on things more and more: “I wonder what Mom would think about this.”
It’s interesting to me how life cycles.
As women, it is important for us to have other women to commune with—especially women who are older than us and women who are at about the same place in Life as us.
I have found this immensely important as I have traversed my own life.
I seek the advice or sometimes just the listening ears of older women. I appreciate Woman’s Wisdom as it is given to me. I enjoy listening at the foot of my Elders.
In fact, I find myself more and more gravitating to places where women gather.
One of the things I get the most joy out of in my own life right now is my belly-dancing class, where I can regularly commune with women.
It has also become increasingly important to me to provide this same Woman’s Wisdom to young girls in whose place I once was.
And I have learned this by watching the women in my life. I make time in my schedule to connect with girlfriends, do things that attract women, just so I can commune with other women.
My mother is one of them. I have come to know her as an adult and enjoy the time we spend together. And as an adult myself, I try to be sensitive and un-selfish enough to not intentionally draw her into arguments or disagreements. This I also learned by watching her.
I can appreciate the differences between my married sisters’ lives and my own. I have come to appreciate what it means to be married 30 years like my parents have, yet also to know how to choose single-hood because it is the best choice for me right now.
Through Woman’s Wisdom, I have learned compassion and giving, but also of unparalleled strength. I have learned of healthy boundaries and needing to rock the boat. I have learned of speaking up and listening empathetically. I have learned of love and light, joy and peace.
I carry these things in my own breast and share them with the young girls who come behind me.
Growing up is not just about making peace with your Mother after the teenage angst has passed, but it’s about learning to teach the Woman’s Wisdom for yourself to pass along when the right time comes.
There is an AWESOME book called She Is Born by Virginia Kroll which celebrates the rich herstory of many different women’s cultures.
Do You Love Your Life Now!? I Do (because I am surrounded by Woman’s Wisdom!)!
Related posts:
- It’s All Been Done Before!
- The Big Switcheroo!
- Little Things That Will Delight Your Mother!
- Mothers Really Do Have Favorites!
- The New Woman Leader: Expectations and Support in the 21st Century!
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December 2nd, 2009 at 8:56 pm
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December 4th, 2009 at 1:42 am
Hi, Ugh, I liked! So clear and positively.
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December 4th, 2009 at 7:37 am
Thanks Super Sonic!