By Charlene M Brown
It is easy to blame your past for the “Why’s” of your present. But this is in fact, the easy way out and the more focus you give it, the longer you will hold onto it and recreate it.
Stop giving yourself excuses! Stop giving your Power away!
You may be one of MANY people who had a childhood trauma. This can range from real serious to relatively superficial (at least when you think about it now). Whatever the case, you can’t change it now!
But you have to choose change.
You may have decided that because of this thing that happened to you 20 years ago or more, you can’t move forward.
WRONG! As long as you continue to give it power and harp on it, you are correct that you can’t move forward.
But, if you find a way to deal with it now, before you give it anymore power, you are doing yourself a great service. This might take forgiveness! This might take you taking a stand. This might mean you speak up for the first time because you never have before!
But to continue to blame it once you have named it, is keeping you in a holding pattern that is not healthy.
Owning up to things is actually the easier part to do. Forgiveness requires much more work and time. Especially with something deeply seeded, forgiveness takes time.
This is not to say that whatever happened to you wasn’t, isn’t important. This is to say that you have to move on with your life.
Yes, an early trauma may be the reason that you do some of the things that you do, but they don’t have to have a stranglehold around your neck.
Once you recognize that they happened, it’s time to heal all those old wounds. Yes it happened to you. Yes it may have been ugly. But here, today, right now, you can change all of that!
Release yourself from this hurtful pattern. Stop giving away YOUR POWER by placing the blame elsewhere. It’s time to accept what happened and move on!
If you are really committed to moving on, take a look at our e-course: Create the Harmony You Need To Move On With Your Life! This gives you a step- by- step guide that helps you get to the place of Harmony that you want t be in. (When you get there, Scroll Down, It’s at the bottom of the page)
Do You Love Your Life Now !? I Do! (Because I have learned to Let Go!)
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