By Charlene M. Brown
Ladies, have you ever had that great guy: you enjoy his company, you see him pretty often, he is gentlemanly, and you have a great time when you are with him? Yet, he won’t agree to taking the next step and being in a relationship with you?
I have several things t say about this:
First, men are deliberate creatures. Even very shy men can “accidently” show up at the same place as a lady of his choice. Men choose their actions—or inactions—with precision. If he is choosing to not be around you as much as you like, he is doing so deliberately.
Second, have you told him, in plain language, outright, that you would like to see about taking your “thing” to the next level? While men are deliberate, they are not creatures with tremendous ESP powers—they cannot read your mind and they do not get subtle hints. Be forthright with your intentions, so he knows what’s what.
Third, if you’ve told him you are digging him and would like to take it further, and he is clear on this, you need to make a deadline for yourself, but you need to communicate it to him as well. You can’t get mad at him because he didn’t give you a response by the deadline you set if he didn’t know about the deadline. That’s not fair at all. Communicate with him. Don’t give him an ultimatum, but let him know that you think a reasonable amount of time for waiting this out is, say, three weeks. Make sure he is informed.
Finally, once you have been clear that you want a next level and clear about how long you are willing to accept an answer, and your time limit expires, go back to “First”. If he has deliberately chosen to not give you an answer, it is time for you to move on
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Don’t get so involved with him that your heart is broken after a month of knowing him. Things take time; R-E-L-A-T-I-O-N-S-H-I-P-S take time. But if you have been clear, get the message that he is clearly sending back to you, that he’s not interested in the partnership you are proposing. You are worth someone who is willing to take you up on that partnership offer. Walk away. This is not the time to become friends with benefits—it will only make letting go more difficult when the time does come.
Love Yourself First!
“Don’t make another person your priority, when you are only their option”
Do You Love Your Self and Your Life Now!? I Do!!
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