By Charlene M. Brown
I used to be the most pessimistic person I knew! I went to a very academically challenging high school and the pressure to go to college was great (to say the least!). One day in the 11th grade, I decided that I wasn’t going to worry about all the little things anymore. I was not going to “sweat the small stuff”, so to speak.
Since then, I have been on a tremendous Journey of Positivity. So much so that most people I know now don’t even think I can get angry or be sad!
This is a tremendous change from how I “used to be.”
I used to have headaches regularly and always be kinda mopey. I had a lot of anger in my heart. Not only was the glass half empty, who cared about the damn glass in the first place, and why did it matter if it had anything in it at all!?
I also used to be ill a lot of the time. I would run myself so hard that when I got something like a mild cold, it would turn into an all out illness, just because I wasn’t taking care of myself. Then, something that should have been out of my system in a few days, took a few weeks, and even then, it lingered on.
I knew that I could not go on like this!
What I realized was that my happiness or even contentment was a choice! My good health was a choice. And the only person in charge of those choices was me!
This was a radical shift from being the angry girl all the time.
I went to college after I finished high school and began an incredible transformation process. Instead of being a (angry!) caterpillar, I was becoming a beautiful butterfly. During this time, there were many marvelous and sometimes not-so-marvelous things and people that crossed my Path. Each one was a learning experience!
What I learned was that everything I did was a choice and that what I chose to surround myself with, reflected the choices I made.
This was also a somewhat radical shift for my thinking. I could no longer blame my circumstances on someone else, but had to claim them as my own.
Hmmmm . . . .
This time in my life also taught me that while I needed to claim responsibility for those things that were mine, those were the only things I had to claim responsibility for. In other words, what’s mine is mine, but what’s yours is yours (and not mine!).
This knowledge freed me. Freed me from being guilty; freed me from worrying about other people’s expectations; freed me to just be my natural self and let things flow.
Learn from my experience, Ladies. We have to free ourselves from other people’s mire and muck. We have to lead our own lives just for the sake of doing so. But we have the choice to do that.
Every Day.
In Every Action we choose to take or not take.
Everything We Do Is A CHOICE!
It didn’t happen for me overnight, and it probably won’t happen for you overnight either. I am still on this Transformational Journey and every day gets better and better because I realize I can make it so and can choose to “be” however I want to BE.
Do You Love Your Choice-filled Life Now!? I Do!!
Related posts:
- Glory Days: Living in the Present and Taking Responsibility!
- Finding the Silver Lining
- Balanced Life: There’s No Such Thing!
- Mothers Really Do Have Favorites!
- The Human Connection: Don’t Underestimate Its Power!
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June 30th, 2009 at 8:35 pm
“what’s mine is mine, but what’s yours is yours (and not mine!).” love it! I hear a book brewing!