Lovin’ Life Now! Newsletter
By Charlene M Brown
Having a Positive Attitude is all about your frame of mind.
It is also about how you spend your time.
And who you spend it with.
Think about this—when you spend your time with people who encourage and support you, you tend to feel really good about yourself, like you’re on top of the world and can do anything at all. (Psst, you can!)
But flip the coin—how do you feel when you are around people who always tell you that you “can’t”. They never support you and they always tell you how hard everything is going to be. They take a nice shiny pin and stick it right in the balloon of your dreams. They really bring you down.
There are a few reasons for this, one of which is that they believe in the concept of “lack.”
Now, most of us do, but we don’t really realize it. We have been taught to believe this all of our lives. The concept of lack says that there is a limited amount of “stuff” in the Universe and only a few people can have that “stuff” (money, power, wealth, etc.).
I can guarantee you the people who poke holes in your dreams believe in this. They say things like, “Oh, why don’t you stay in this career because it’s safe and secure.” Or when you are trying to take time for yourself, they always find some other emergency that you HAVE to help out with.
I’m here to tell you that this perception of Lack is untrue! In fact, the Universe is governed by just the opposite rule, that of Abundance, of “asking and you shall receive.”
This is called the Law of Attraction. This basically boils down to you getting what you think about.
Why then, are there so many “bad” things in the world if we get what we think about?
Very good question: there is certainly no shortage on crime and poverty in the world. But this is the result of all of the people who are constantly thinking about them.
Have you ever watched the 6-o-clock news? It’s full of stories of all the things going wrong with the world. Rarely do you see things going right. If you watch this regularly, you are only becoming an expert on war, crime, scandal and murder.
The people who are always dashing your dreams have the same effect. By listening to them, you become an expert on all the things you can’t do and learn to focus on them.
With that said, if you are ready to stop complaining and DO SOMETHING about this, there are a few steps you can take:
1. Find positive, self-affirming stuff to do—things you enjoy, and things that make you feel uplifted. This might be hanging out with some positive friends or with a new group of positive folks, or reading a good positive thinking book like Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.
2. Limit your time and exposure to the news
3. Limit your exposure to those toxic people who always tell you that you can’t
4. Spend some quality time with yourself
5. Find “positive thinking” affirmations and activities (there is a wealth of resources online or at your local library or bookstore)
6. Try one of my E-Courses on Creating Harmony or Enjoying the Journey. Both can be found here.
There are, of course lots of other wonderful ideas that you can come up with that suit you best. Let us know about them by leaving a comment or sending us feedback through our “Contact” page.
The important thing to know is that you CAN change your life from a constantly toxic one to a healthy supportive one, but YOU HAVE TO BE WILLING TO CHANGE!
Do You Love Your Life Now!? I Do! (Because I limit my interaction with toxic people and situations!)
Lovin’ Life Now! Newsletter
By Charlene M Brown
I have a friend who is an “energy reader.” He is more “tuned-in” to other people’s energy than most. He definitely has good energy and is a good hugger. In fact, I love hugging him to exchange this energy. Sometimes we will stay in an embrace for much longer than the social norm, just because we are replenishing each other’s energy supply.
Whew, now that I’ve gotten that confession off my chest, let me go back and explain some of the things I said! That was certainly a mouthful, especially if you’ve never looked at the world as being filled with energy before!
But it is!
Every single thing in the Universe is made from energy. Though energies are different, have different vibrations, they all have the same basic characteristics!
In the human body, we have energy centers, called chakras that act as a sort of referee to the energy in our bodies. These chakras are meridians, or entry (and exit) points to the energy that our bodies receive and give out.
Have you heard of that popular book/movie, The Secret by Rhonda Byrne, that talks about the Law of Attraction? Well, this information is also true and also has to do with energy.
The Law of Attraction states that we get what we think about; like attracts like. This happens because the more thought we put into something, the stronger we are vibrating at that frequency. The stronger a signal goes out, the stronger it will come back. (Note here, signals we send out come back multiplied)
Think about this like a radio frequency. Let’s say the station you want is at frequency 106.3. If you are there on the dot, the sound is strong and clear. This represents things that you put a lot of thought into—the things that show up in your life, you are playing that station. The further away you are from that frequency, the less clear it comes in. The further away you are from thinking or feeling something, the less clear the frequency and the less it shows up in your life. Does that make sense?
In the course of our daily lives, most of us spend time doing activities that deplete our energy. In the alternative healing world, this can be seen through your aura, or energy field around your body.
We all have this energy field, this aura, surrounding our bodies. If it is big and vibrant, we have a good balance of energy. If it is dull and small, staying very close to our bodies, we are probably very imbalanced. This is what causes sickness and dis-ease. (Auras have colors associated with them that generally correspond to the rainbow. Some people have a gift for seeing these auras in color.)
When our energy is low, we are depleted of the natural energy we all possess. Sometimes this happens because other people drain our energy, such as when we are being intimidated or belittled. (See The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield for more about this topic). This is when we need energy from outside ourselves to boost us back up! This is why I can hug my friend for so long, because we are both filling up our energetic gas tank. Incidentally, we could also get this energy by hugging a tree—no, really!
There is an infinite supply of this energy and therefore enough for everyone, without anyone ever being depleted. But most people don’t realize this.
Which is why we allow (and it is an allowing) others to deplete our energy field. There are ways to safeguard against this sort of energy depletion, but perhaps we’ll save that for another article.
The point is most of us Do get depleted and need ways to re –energize. I hug my friend and he hugs me back. We both know, subconsciously at least, that because of this infinite supply, when we put our energies together, it is somehow greater than if we were hugging ourselves—energetically speaking, we fill each other back up!
So I will continue to enjoy his hugs!
Do You Love your Life Now!? I Do! (Because I hug people with good energy!)