Lovin’ Life Now! Newsletter
Lovin’ Life Now! Newsletter
By Charlene M Brown
I have a sage friend who says: “Relationships will end as they began.”
Charlene M Brown
What was the best date you ever went on! Who was it with? What did you do that made it so special?
Hold onto this delicious thought (I bet you are licking your lips for one reason or another! 
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Now, when was the last time you took yourself on a date!?
Have you ever?
Well, hunny, it’s about time you did!
This might take some planning and saving—I understand that—but it is well worth it, I promise you! Do what it takes to make this happen anyway!
Get all dressed up! Find your favorite flirty-fun dress, add your favorite jewelry, and accessories, maybe a dab of makeup to highlight your beautiful face, now add your favorite pair of heels and you are ready to go. Don’t forget to take a wrap or a jacket if you will be chilly upon your return (or if it’s Winter or Fall!)
Now take yourself to someplace that you have always wanted to try. This might be the Opera or Ballet, or it might be a nice restaurant in town. Whatever it is, Paint the town red and have a fabulous time with yourself. Don’t worry about your first impressions of your date, just be yourself.
For me this looks like, having dinner at a nice seafood restaurant, enjoying a glass of wine or two, eating dessert (I believe in Dessert! ) then catching a show that has lots of music or dancing or both in it.
And I have done this, and found that I enjoy my own company just as much as I enjoy other peoples’ company!
If dinner is part of your date, make sure you select things that sound like the most delicious items on the menu! And don’t forget dessert! Women are always watching what they eat! Just this once, on your magnificent date, don’t worry about the calories or getting up extra early tomorrow to burn them off, just enjoy every delicious bite of your food and every sensuous sip of your drink. Delight in your decadent dessert!
If you are going to the theatre, make sure it is something you have wanted to see for awhile—make sure it’s worth it.
Before you leave the house, make sure you look in the mirror and tell your date how marvelous she looks. Just for tonight, suspend all judgment!
Just for tonight, have the time of your life!
Tell us about it by leaving a comment!
Enjoy!
Do You Love Your Life Now!? I DO!! (Because I regularly take myself out on great dates! )
By Charlene M Brown
Have you ever gone from relationship to relationship, yet still feel alone and lonely? Have you drawn the somewhat clichéd conclusion that, “it’s not them, it’s you?”
Do you find that even with companionship, you still feel unfulfilled? Perhaps you are afraid to be alone?
This happens to the best of us at one time or another.
Relationships (ALL relationships) teach us how to be our best selves. Sometimes, unfortunately, they teach us by showing us how we DON’T want to be treated!
If you’ve fallen into this lapse, let me offer you a suggestion: get out of the relationship you are in and get into a relationship with YOURSELF!
Date yourself!
That’s right, start courting yourself, taking yourself out on dates and really loving yourself.
It sounds silly, but by dating yourself, you find out how you really want to be treated and what you really expect from a partner.
It also sheds light on where your expectations are unrealistic for a partner: if you’re not willing to do these things for yourself, than how can you expect someone else to do them for you!?
Seriously, this works! I’ve done it!
You also really GROW as an individual. You learn to make yourself whole and complete all by yourself.
When you date yourself, you find out what you really want. And go full out! Get dressed for your first date and rock your sexiest heels!
Take mental notes as you do this!
Do you always go for ice cream after a movie, but never have with a partner? This teaches you to speak up (“the squeaky wheel gets the oil”, or in this case the ice cream).
Do you really dislike Vietnamese food, but have gone to appease a partner. Maybe you love Thai food, but never voiced this to your partner.
Dating yourself gives you a real idea of your preferences. It also shows you what you are looking for in a mate.
Ladies, does your guy always pick up the tab? Dating yourself puts a realistic monetary picture of what he is spending (times 2!) every time you go out.
This also gives you a chance to get to know you better.
A partnership should be between two whole people, not one completing the other. You should be able to stand on your own two feet before you try to stand on four. Once you’ve dated yourself, it will boost your confidence—telling other people: yes, I can do this by myself!” And all without saying a word!
I suggest dating yourself at least once in your life and for at least six months! This is a reasonable amount of time to get to know your Self and deal with whatever may come up. Learn how to wine and dine yourself, so you know how to communicate this to a partner when the time comes again.
Do You Love Your Life Now!? I Do! (Because I can wine and dine myself with the best of them!)
By Charlene M Brown
By Charlene M. Brown