By Charlene M Brown
The main difference between being single and being in a relationship is preparation and openness!
No, really!
So many people—and I’m going to talk to us ladies, here—so many of us say we want to be in a relationship, yet we refuse to change our ways.
I’m not saying that we have to change ourselves in order for a man to want to be in a relationship with us. Not at all. I am saying that if we do the same thing we have always done, we’re going to get the same results we’ve always gotten!
We say we want a man, yet we continue to be workaholics who don’t go out and have any fun. Or we go out with the same (usually also single!) girlfriends we went out with last weekend and hit the same clubs we usually go to!
Beautiful, how are you ever going to expect change to come if you aren’t willing to change!?
If a relationship is something you seek, you have to go inward and get some questions answered first!
Like why have your past relationships not worked out? And is there a pattern to the men you have been dating? Are there things you said you would never settle for, yet found that you have?
You can ask yourself questions until you are blue in the face. But really being honest when you answer them is the key.
In my own life, I found that after I had been in the same relationship like 5 times in a row, all the finger-pointing I was doing ultimately came back to ME! The common denominator was ME! I was making the same poor decision over and over again and wasn’t learning my lesson.
Until I was willing to change that habit, my outer circumstances were going to keep repeating themselves.
I promise you this is true for you too! Being willing and open to change can go a loooonnnnngggggg way in tearing down your barriers to a relationship. When you prepare the way, the right partner will come.
But believe you me, it DOES require preparation!
Do You Love Your Life Now!? I Do! (Because I am learning to be open to changing myself!)
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- Single Vs Relationshiped: The Argument for Balance, Part II
- Do Unto Others
- Go! Date Your Self!
- Charlie’s Angels, Kept Women, and Buying Your Own Drinks
- Facing Yourself!
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