By Charlene M. Brown
At some point, we all get a little lost and confused! Even those of us who feel like we have a pretty good grasp of the way things are going get shaken up a little bit every now and again. The key is not that it happens, but how do you deal with it when it does.
This is where a good support network comes in.
Often, we, as young women, feel like everything we go through is done in isolation, like no one else is going through what we’re going through at any given time. Newsflash: no woman is an island, and certainly not an unchartered one! All the things you may be going through, someone has gone through before you!
The networks we use to support ourselves can be the key to navigating “new” waters.
However, sometimes we find that our present network no longer cuts it in terms of being well supported. This is not new either. A recent study on MSNBC says that we change our friends every seven years.
It might just be time to turn over the new leaf and change your friends.
Things move in cycles! Things build up. When it gets too crowded, something shakes it up a little bit (or a lot) and things break down. When things are good and broken down, we start to build back up again. This is true for our emotional health as well!
Know where you stand in regards to what cycle you are in, the building-up or the breaking-down. If you understand where you Are, you will likely be better prepared to deal with it. If you don’t know where you Are, how can you figure anything else out in relation to it!?
In fact, there are some studies that show that everything in your life, not just your friends, moves in 7 year cycles.
Change is necessary! Change is also constant. If you choose not to change when it comes, you’re going to be the one left in the dark when everyone else has shed some light!
It is also important to note that you may change at different rates than the people around you.
I once joined a community, which was absolutely great at the time I joined! As time wore on, however, the people in the community didn’t change at the same rate that I was changing. This meant that, for all intents and purposes, the other people stayed the same, while one day, I woke up and found that I had outgrown my place in that community!
More fascinating to me, however, was that my “space” was immediately filled by someone else who was looking for the exact same thing that I was when I joined!
Change had occurred!
And often, it may not be that things necessarily change, but what you are looking for has changed!
If you listen with your eyes and your heart, you may just be able to hear the winds of change when they come a’blowin’.
“The Only Constant in the World is Change.” (~questionable as to whom this quote actually belongs, but it is not mine 
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Do You Love Your Ever-Changing Life Now!? I DO!!
Related posts:
- Change Begins With One Little Step: Didn’t You Know!?
- Change Your Mind: It’s Okay!
- Sowing the Seeds of Change!
- Messages Change!
- How Many Roads?: Embracing the True Nature of Change!
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July 7th, 2009 at 10:14 pm
The 7 year thing is very interesting because I had my child in the 7th year of my relationship with my husband, and she was such a welcome change! The Quran says when children are seven they are ready for more dicipline and responsiblity. Hmmm . . . Michael Jackson was burried on 7/7 exactly 7 years after he wrote his will . . . okay what’s goin on here?!
July 7th, 2009 at 10:37 pm
I’ve found that I also see things clearly in 7 year cycles. But I believe everyone has their numbers, 7 just might be yours!
~c